January of any year is famously all about promises. At the beginning of the year we usually reflect on the last and resolve to change in the year ahead. Change is good, it means we are moving forward and not feeling so stuck. But, where I always get stuck is the ‘talking’ about change instead of just doing it.
So this year I resolve to quit talking so much and start doing more!
My thoughts for family resolutions are:
Respect differences of options or that free advice your friends, family and neighbors give you about your kids and then do what you know is right for your unique family.
Count to at least ‘3’ in your head before you speak harshly to your children, because they all learn by your model.
Always give your kids the benefit of the doubt (just like you’d appreciate) before convicting them of the ‘crimes’ it seems like they have committed against you or their siblings.
Exercise yourself and invite your children to join you.
Forgiveness is the key to building a trusting relationship. So forgive even if you are having a hard time forgetting what someone did to you.
Tolerate your own imperfections and watch how easy it becomes to deal with mistakes your kids make in their behavior. After all practice makes perfect in every aspect of our lives.
Let me know how you plan to ‘just do it’ in 2010?
Happy New Year, Dr. Ann