Sleeping
Here’s what Dr. Ann Corwin, The Parenting Doctor, has to say about Sleeping:
Not getting enough sleep is a very successful form of torture. You will do anything, literally, just to get a few winks. That is understandably why parents do stuff in the night to get their kids back to sleep that they would never do during the day or when they were rested.
First, thing to remember is when you tell your kids it is time to go to bed, what they hear in their childhood brains is that their play and fun has to stop and they will not see their parents anymore.
What we really mean as parents is that we will give our kids a bath, read stories, brush their teeth and get some needed sleep so we’re ready for tomorrow.
As you can see a child’s view of this process is very different than their parents.
SO WHAT’S A PARENT TO DO?
Tell your kids what they want to hear at bedtime. Instead of saying “bedtime”, say, “It’s time to read your favorite stories, splash in some water and get your smile shinning brightly while we listen to some music up in the bathroom”.
Give it a try and just see if your kids don’t look forward to bedtime instead of resisting it.
P.S.
If your child is waking in the night, be sure to not give them incentives to keep getting up by talking to them, touching them or looking at them. Just put them back to bed with their lovey. The lovey tells them that they are not alone, even though they cannot be with their parent when they are sleeping.
Written on May 8, 2010 – 12:38 pm
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A recipe by: Ann Corwin, Ph.D.
Ingredients…
#1 Understanding how you were mothered.
#2 Deciding how you want to mother?
#3 Setting goals for your child’s scrapbook.
#4Teach your child all the lessons you wish you would have learned.
#5 Don’t be afraid to learn from your children.
#6 Comfort them with boundaries and limits.
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Hi Dr. Ann,
My 35 month old boy giggles and laughs for up to 20 minutes after we’ve put him down at night to sleep. Should it be a concern?
Danel Peterson, South Africa
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