First Year
Here’s what Dr. Ann Corwin, The Parenting Doctor, recommends in your first year of parenting.
“How your children see the world and what can I do about it as a parent”.
0-3 MONTHS – PRIMARY GOAL IS TO CONNECT.
Your child’s basic and primary goal in life is to CONNECT with you, their parents. The three most important ways your child CONNECT’S with you, their parent, is by making eye contact with you, getting your loving touch and listening for the sound of your reassuring voice.
What would Dr. Ann say?
By talking, touching and making eye contact with your baby on a daily basis, you will build a trusting relationship.
3-6 MONTHS – BEGINNINGS OF A SEPARATE BEING.
Your baby begins to understand that they are a separate being from you. This sometimes scares a three month old, so expect your baby to cry when you leave the room. You begin to see sincere smiles coming from your baby – a gift you will treasure!
What would Dr. Ann say?
Play peek-a-boo with your baby to help them cope with your absence and then come to the realization that you always reappear!
6-9 MONTHS – THE BEGINNING OF DISCIPLINE.
This period marks the beginning of discipline. For the first time, your baby will realize that their behavior can change the behavior of the people around them. They will begin to test your limits with their behavior.
What would Dr. Ann say?
When your child behaves in ways you want as a parent, be sure to move close to them through eye contact, touching, and talking. This will encourage your child to repeat these behaviors in order to gain your attention. When your child behaves in ways you DON’T want as a parent, be sure to move away, “simply by picking your child up from behind with their back to your chest and don’t talk to them while you distract them with another more appropriate activity.” This will discourage your child from repeating that behavior.
9-12 MONTHS – “NO” IS THEIR FAVORITE WORD.
Your child will change more in the first year of life than in any other time of their life, except puberty!
Written on May 8, 2010 – 12:38 pm
Posted in Dr. Ann's Column, Dr. Ann's Place for Parents, Elementary School Years, Hitting, Kindergarten, Lying, Mean Girls, New Baby, Pacifiers, Thumbs, Fingers, Preparing For A New Baby, Preschool, Sharing, Sibling Rivalry, Sleeping, Sorting Out The SuperNanny, Talking Back, Tantrums, The Teen Years, Toddler Years, Toilet Trials, Whining
A recipe by: Ann Corwin, Ph.D.
Ingredients…
#1 Understanding how you were mothered.
#2 Deciding how you want to mother?
#3 Setting goals for your child’s scrapbook.
#4Teach your child all the lessons you wish you would have learned.
#5 Don’t be afraid to learn from your children.
#6 Comfort them with boundaries and limits.
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Written on April 7, 2010 – 8:10 pm
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Get Answers from Dr. Ann at http://thestir.cafemom.com/toddler about Why the Super Nanny Doesn’t Help Parents and much, much more!
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Written on March 12, 2010 – 2:17 pm
Posted in Dr. Ann's Column, Dr. Ann's Place for Parents, Elementary School Years, Kindergarten, Pacifiers, Thumbs, Fingers, Preschool, Sleeping, Toddler Years, Whining
Bedtime often becomes the most frustrating part of almost every parent’s day, so we thought we’d provide you with a few of Dr. Ann’s quick tips to help make bedtime something you and your children look forward to each day.
Create bedtime routines. Every child cringes when they hear their parent say the words, “Okay, time [...]
Written on January 7, 2010 – 9:00 pm
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January of any year is famously all about promises. At the beginning of the year we usually reflect on the last and resolve to change in the year ahead. Change is good, it means we are moving forward and not feeling so stuck. But, where I always get stuck is the ‘talking’ about change instead [...]
My kids are five years apart, so by the time my second was born my first was in kindergarten and well on his way to having other kids opinions influence him.
I will never forget when he came home and told me that his friend Parker told him there was no Santa Claus. The look on [...]
Written on December 9, 2009 – 10:17 pm
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I am sure you are already planning where you will be for the holidays, what to buy, what you will donate to others, what parties you will attend, who will be coming over to your house, what to eat for special holiday meals and the list goes on and on.
But, do you have a plan [...]
Written on October 31, 2009 – 2:56 pm
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I’d like to summarize some important points that surfaced during my interview this afternoon regarding disciplining other people’s children. First and foremost, remember any time you say anything to another parent about their kid’s misbehavior, those are fighting words. Even if parents know their kids are doing something wrong: if another parent says it, that [...]
Written on July 17, 2009 – 10:38 pm
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Summer vacation… kids cannot wait and parents look forward to less structure and fun. But by the middle of July, the dreams of carefree summer fun seem to fade. Why?
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Written on June 28, 2009 – 11:44 pm
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Ever get up “on the wrong side of the bed” and don’t know why?
At one time or another just about everybody experiences not knowing why they feel the way they do. Kids get even more confused than parents do about their feelings. All kids behaviors are in response to some sort of feeling and most [...]