Why Telling Your Child to JUST Calm Down won’t work!

  It’s very tempting when you see your child jumping up and down and screaming inappropriately in church or at story time in the library to say, “Shhhh” or tell them to calm down.  But, the reality is they cannot…

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Painful Lessons from Santa Barbara

  Sadly, we will probably never know for sure what drove Elliot Rodger to injure and kill innocent victims this past Memorial Day weekend in Isla Vista, CA, but the effects have touched beyond the local community.  I was in…

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What can Generations of Mothering teach us?

My mother is about to turn 91 on the 4th of July.  My memories of my mom and her mother, Nana and my Dad’s mother, Gammie are very vivid to me.  You see even though my mom celebrates her 91st B-day…

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Why telling your child to stop FEELING ‘shy’ won’t work!

Being shy is typical for many young children. By the age of 5 they now have all of their feelings and language acquisition, but unfortunately don’t know ’how to’ socially apply these skills. Therefore, they say or don’t say things at inappropriate times. So…

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Why do emotions always run high at the Olympics?

Because feelings rule; whatever we feel comes first & that drives our behavior! First of all, what a thrill it would to watch your child succeed in an ultimate way, competing as an Olympian. Very few of us parents will…

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What do TEAM sports teach?

As the excitement of Super Bowl weekend is upon us, I am not just reminded of watching of football, although I am a huge fan, but of what my son and daughter learned through their participation in team sports. This…

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Happy Holidays…How to Deal with Holiday Feelings

The holidays are supposed to be the time of year for family.  But whether you’re with family or without, feelings about the holidays always seem to run high! Mostly, I think, because the anticipation of what family time ‘should’ be can be…

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What does Thanks…Giving Mean Anyway?

Question from a parent of three: “Thanksgiving always reminds me to count my blessings.  But I find myself at a loss when it comes to teaching my children how to be grateful.  It seems like even though they say “Thanks”…

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“Let me show you how Pocket Full of Feelings works!”

About a month ago we brought together 4 moms and their 11 kids to try out Pocket Full of Feeling, but the catch is we didn’t tell them what it was or how to use it.  We wanted to see…

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Do your kids seem to behave better for everyone else?

Most parents believe and say, “My kids know how to push my buttons to manipulate me and that is why they don’t behave for me”!  I also hear well-meaning, grandmothers/fathers, mother-in-laws and neighbors reinforce this notion by saying, “He never…

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